As women, we worry about many things that we cannot change and have no control over. This wastes a lot of our mental energy and physical emotions unnecessarily. Instead, we should focus our strong mental abilities on things we have the power to change.
Many of you would have heard the serenity prayer:
God, give me grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
Well, now is the time to start living it.
Here are 5 things I can stop worrying about straight away, because I cannot control them:
What’s on my plate
There’s always going to be things to do, and plenty on my plate – I’m sure you’re the same. So why worry about always getting everything done. Because you’ll never be done! There will always be more added to the to-do list. Why not accept that being alive means there’s things to do? I think you and I would be pretty bored if we didn’t have things to do.
What I own
I’m learning to reframe my perspective and be really grateful for what I own. I’m trying not to compare others anymore, because I actually have a beautiful home, and I drive a great car, and
I look pretty good in the clothes I have. I don’t own everything that I would live to own, but I own everything I need.
Putting on weight
I eat well. I exercise. I rarely over-indulge. So I need to stop making myself feel guilty over the small things. I have told myself to enjoy my food more, and I’ll probably feel more satisfied. Instead of starving myself and then wolfing down my food, never even tasting it! My body will regulate itself and I have experienced times in the past where I have eaten a lot and no put on weight, and then eaten very little and not lost weight. So I’m going to eat what I like, enjoy an active lifestyle, be fit and strong, and not worry about my weight!
It’s happened. There’s nothing that can be done to change it, expect to move forward with the best foot forward. I often replay events over and over in my mind, changing small things I could have said, or visualising other things I could have done. But it’s too late, so I’m wasting all that mental energy. I will learn to accept what I cannot change … and move on.
What people think about me
This is so hard! Almost every decision I have made about my career has been to please people that I don’t even know or like, because I’ve been so worried about how the wider community and my industry will think of me! What a waste. Because of this, I have often done many things that I have not wanted to do, to please people I don’t even like. Not to mention that I don’t even know if they noticed or cared! I also have to accept that not everyone will like me – so long as more than 80% don’t hate me, then I think that’s good odds.