The greatest source of suffering in life’s often not being our authentic self – losing the story of who you truly are.
You may have been told that you ‘should’ be a certain way, act a certain way and that there are key formulas that you have to follow to be successful or healthy.
If you’re like most people, you may have struggled to make the rules you were given fit or work for you. You may have followed the rules very well and still not gotten the results for which you were hoping, like me.
Your journey may have left you feeling depleted and not good enough, like me.
There’s nothing wrong with you!
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to creating a successful life. Even the definition of success, and ‘having it all’ is unique for each one of us.
When we try to squeeze the powerful essence of who we are behind masks or into small definitions of who we should be, it unleashes a subtle restlessness inside of us. This subtle restlessness creates stress and unhappiness, an inner awareness that you’re not living your life purpose or being true to yourself.
You have a sense that there’s more to your story – that there’s more to who you truly are.
When you are compromising what you really want in your life, when you say ‘no’ to things to which you want to say ‘yes’ (and vice versa), when you believe that it’s impossible to do/be/have what you want in your life, when you forget who you are and why you’re here – it all creates a whole set of painful consequences.
If you have not being able to be who you truly are, and have not been allowed to express your authentic self, you may show signs of compromise:
If you’re experiencing any of these, you will not be living sustainably; you are not living true to yourself. You’ve probably crafted an identity that is ‘more acceptable’ and ‘fits in’ better with what you think the world will allow for you. You may be denying wha is true for you, because you think it’s safe or maybe the only way to experience success in life.
Anytime we craft an identity that is not true to who we really are, we are burning excess energy. It takes a lot of energy to be someone or something you’re not. Eventually, you will burn out simply because you can’t maintain the lie anymore.
There is a way to find who you truly are again. It will give you more energy to be more sustainable in the world, and take away your restlessness.